Lesson Learn.... AGAIN....
6 years ago, I'm broken....6 years later....same thing happen....But this time, more serious...
Right from the on start, lies are all around...Right from the start, there are just too many hidden truth which actually, must be put to light.
My thinking about choosing a partner is very simple... I must love her...and she "might be" my wife in future... If i don't intend to make her my wife at all, i will never start a relationship...That is all the while my thinking and believes...
Today is really a lesson learnt... I learn not to disclose my feelings freely.... i also learn that before going deep into a lady, I MUST FIND OUT MORE about her first....Her background... Her family, her past... AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, if she already had a boyfriend....
I am shocked after my conversation with her last night....when she said promise to call me back and as usual, did not return at all...
I post some questions...
1) If you are attached (with a boyfriend/girlfriend) and somebody or many other people is going after you.... Will you tell your suitors that actually you already had a boyfriend/girlfriend??
My answer is, i will tell her," i'm already attached to this girl...And i'm sorry.... can we be friends instead?" I will be frank and honest with her... But not having this mentally that,"Hey, shes not bad also... Hold on and see how things goes.." Friends, this is selfish in thoughts and character. Do not do that...
2) Will you allow someone to French Kiss you, hold your hands freely and hug her tight with love when you already had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
My answer is no!!! How can i french kiss someone when i am already attached? I mean, i must be accountable to my girl!! If my girl do the same to me, can i take it?? The fact is, i cant. In fact, nobody can! Let me tell you...By you allowing this to happen, the person will be mislead! We are not Americans for heaven and goodness sake! We are Asians! Don't tell me its normal. If its normal, Go and french with all your guy friends then. Not to me.
To RL: Be fair to me yah? As you said, right from the onstart, you are already attached.... You did not tell me you already had a bf right from the start and you are allowing things to happen... What are you thinking? Because i'm nice and true to you thus you want to "hold on" to me??Don't deny because you admit it last night over our phone conversation. You said i will have my chance.... Which was explained by you that it actually means just in case things don't work out between you and Mr J or now, Mr C, I might have a chance...
WHAT DO YOU TAKE ME FOR?? SPARE TIRE?? Come on! I think i deserve better... why? because....
I AM TRUE AND SINCERE TOWARDS YOU ALL THIS WHILE..... i think i deserve likewise from you too.... Don't i????
If right from the start you told me you already had a bf....things will be different.... Because of your zero in honesty and integrity, you caused hurt.... if you think you had been dropping hints? Yes, you did... but is only these 1 week.... your hints are not hints at all.... Just be frank next time...
Lesson learnt....I will be smarter the next time... I'm hurt but i will get healed...No need to pity me...for i kind of brought it upon myself....
I thank you you for admiting to me that you "had feelings for me" WHILE YOU ARE ALREADY ATTACHED... Any thanks, lesson learn.....
Right from the on start, lies are all around...Right from the start, there are just too many hidden truth which actually, must be put to light.
My thinking about choosing a partner is very simple... I must love her...and she "might be" my wife in future... If i don't intend to make her my wife at all, i will never start a relationship...That is all the while my thinking and believes...
Today is really a lesson learnt... I learn not to disclose my feelings freely.... i also learn that before going deep into a lady, I MUST FIND OUT MORE about her first....Her background... Her family, her past... AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, if she already had a boyfriend....
I am shocked after my conversation with her last night....when she said promise to call me back and as usual, did not return at all...
I post some questions...
1) If you are attached (with a boyfriend/girlfriend) and somebody or many other people is going after you.... Will you tell your suitors that actually you already had a boyfriend/girlfriend??
My answer is, i will tell her," i'm already attached to this girl...And i'm sorry.... can we be friends instead?" I will be frank and honest with her... But not having this mentally that,"Hey, shes not bad also... Hold on and see how things goes.." Friends, this is selfish in thoughts and character. Do not do that...
2) Will you allow someone to French Kiss you, hold your hands freely and hug her tight with love when you already had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
My answer is no!!! How can i french kiss someone when i am already attached? I mean, i must be accountable to my girl!! If my girl do the same to me, can i take it?? The fact is, i cant. In fact, nobody can! Let me tell you...By you allowing this to happen, the person will be mislead! We are not Americans for heaven and goodness sake! We are Asians! Don't tell me its normal. If its normal, Go and french with all your guy friends then. Not to me.
To RL: Be fair to me yah? As you said, right from the onstart, you are already attached.... You did not tell me you already had a bf right from the start and you are allowing things to happen... What are you thinking? Because i'm nice and true to you thus you want to "hold on" to me??Don't deny because you admit it last night over our phone conversation. You said i will have my chance.... Which was explained by you that it actually means just in case things don't work out between you and Mr J or now, Mr C, I might have a chance...
WHAT DO YOU TAKE ME FOR?? SPARE TIRE?? Come on! I think i deserve better... why? because....
I AM TRUE AND SINCERE TOWARDS YOU ALL THIS WHILE..... i think i deserve likewise from you too.... Don't i????
If right from the start you told me you already had a bf....things will be different.... Because of your zero in honesty and integrity, you caused hurt.... if you think you had been dropping hints? Yes, you did... but is only these 1 week.... your hints are not hints at all.... Just be frank next time...
Lesson learnt....I will be smarter the next time... I'm hurt but i will get healed...No need to pity me...for i kind of brought it upon myself....
I thank you you for admiting to me that you "had feelings for me" WHILE YOU ARE ALREADY ATTACHED... Any thanks, lesson learn.....
posted by Brainwash at 8:39 AM
1 Comments:
Di, you must be so angry and hurt...but in any case, you learn from your mistake & i guess, this is yet another part of growing up. You learn to be wiser surely. Don't let this bad experience be a stumbling block to a real & true relationship. The last thing you want to become is ....to be skeptical.
I believe God has in His plan someone wonderful for you cos you deserve one!
Love you,
Sis
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